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Christy Brown: Blame Is Seductive, But Healing Demands Something Greater

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Aug 16, 2025, 15:35

Christy Brown: Blame Is Seductive, But Healing Demands Something Greater

Christy Brown, Senior District Sales Manager of Midwest at Medtronic, shared a post on LinkedIn:

“Life Isn’t a Blame Game — Even When It Hurts Most

I post often. Not because it’s easy, but because it matters. Sometimes the words come freely. Other times, they come through tears, through reflection, through the quiet ache of things I wish were different.

Blame is seductive.

One of the hardest truths Matt Brown and I have had to face is the unfairness of Alexander’s aggressive brain cancer. I wanted, and still want, to blame someone. Something. Anything. We searched for answers—extensive genetic testing, endless questions—but there was no one and nothing to blame. And even if there had been, would it have truly satisfied the ache?

Blame is so seductive. It offers the illusion of control. But it rarely brings peace. In both life and leadership, I’ve learned that blame keeps us stuck. It delays healing. It erodes trust.
So I choose to live without it. I choose to focus on what I can build, how I can grow, and how I can honor Alexander’s story—not with resentment, but with resilience.

And I see that same resilience in his big sister Charlotte. She carries a wisdom beyond her years, a quiet strength that reminds me daily what love looks like in action. Her presence, her questions, her laughter—they ground me. She’s navigating this journey too, and doing so with grace that humbles me.

Posting these reflections isn’t always easy. But if they help someone else feel less alone, more seen, or more empowered to lead with grace, then it’s worth it.

I know these posts are often both professional and personal, but I share it in the hope that it resonates with someone out there. What helps you stay grounded when life doesn’t go according to plan?”

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